Understanding Narcissistic Abuse: The Dark Reality of Narcissistic Relationships

Navigating the emotional, psychological, and physical impact of narcissistic abuse

Mark Randall Havens
2 min readJan 20, 2023


Narcissistic abuse can shatter your sense of self and leave you questioning reality. Learn how to recognize and protect yourself. Photo by Klim Musalimov on Unsplash.

Are you constantly walking on eggshells in your relationships, always second-guessing yourself and feeling like you can never measure up? It may be time to take a closer look at the dynamics at play and consider the possibility that you are dealing with narcissistic abuse.

Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional, psychological, or physical abuse that is inflicted by a narcissist. Narcissists are individuals with a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. These individuals often use manipulative tactics such as control, manipulation, and devaluation to exert power and maintain control over their victims.

Narcissistic abuse can take many forms and can be subtle or overt. Some common tactics used by narcissists include gaslighting, playing the victim, and triangulation. Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that leads the victim to question their own reality and sanity. Narcissists often play the victim and blame their victims for their own behavior, and triangulation is the use of a third person to manipulate and control the victim.

One of the most insidious aspects of narcissistic abuse is that it can be difficult to recognize. Narcissists often present a charming and charismatic facade, which can be hard to see through. They may also blame their victims for their own behavior, making it difficult for victims to understand what is happening to them.

If you suspect that you or someone you know is being subjected to narcissistic abuse, it is important to seek help. There are many resources available, including therapy and support groups, that can provide guidance and support in navigating this difficult and often confusing experience.

Remember, you are not alone, and you are not to blame for the abuse inflicted upon you by a narcissist. With the right support and understanding, you can heal and regain control of your life.

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Mark Randall Havens

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