NEUTRALIZING NARCISSISM
The Dark Side of Idealization: How Narcissists Use ‘Boundaries’ to Control and Manipulate Relationships
Understanding the tactics used by narcissists to gain power and control in relationships
When you first enter into a relationship with a narcissist, they may seem like the perfect partner. They shower you with attention, and affection, and make you feel like you are the most important person in the world. But as the relationship progresses, you may start to notice that their seemingly reasonable boundaries are actually a means of control and manipulation.
As humans, we all have a need for connection and validation. Narcissists, however, take this to an extreme level and use it as a tool for manipulation in their relationships. One tactic they use is idealization, where they put their partner on a pedestal, making them feel special and adored. Along with this, they may also establish boundaries in the relationship, which at first glance may seem reasonable and healthy. But in reality, these boundaries are a means for the narcissist to exert power and control over their partner.
One example of this is when a narcissist sets boundaries around communication. They may insist on only communicating through…
