Navigating the Storm: Overcoming a Contentious Divorce and Custody Battle

Unraveling the Complexities and Protecting Your Child’s Well-Being

Mark Randall Havens
4 min readMar 27


Facing the challenges of a difficult divorce and custody battle, and emerging stronger together. Photo by Derek Thomson on Unsplash.

The painful process of divorce is amplified when faced with a complicated custody battle involving a manipulative ex-partner, but with the right guidance and tools, you can navigate this storm and protect your child’s well-being.

Divorce and child custody situations are often fraught with difficulty, but when faced with a manipulative and controlling ex-partner, the challenges can seem insurmountable. This article aims to provide guidance, tips, and strategies to help you effectively navigate a contentious divorce and custody battle while ensuring the well-being of your child.

The lack of empathy and willingness to compromise often displayed by such individuals can lead to increased conflict and tension during the divorce process. Furthermore, their tendency towards control and manipulation can result in a skewed narrative and make it difficult for the non-custodial parent to have their concerns taken seriously.

In this complex situation, it’s crucial to maintain communication, attempt to reach a compromise and set clear boundaries. In some cases, involving a mediator or a family law attorney may be necessary to resolve conflicts and reach agreements that are in the best interest of the child.

Practical Steps to Overcome a Contentious Custody Situation

  1. Document everything: Keep a detailed record of all interactions, communications, and incidents involving your ex-partner. This includes emails, text messages, phone calls, and any in-person encounters. Having well-organized and thorough documentation can be invaluable when presenting your case in court.
  2. Build a strong support network: Surround yourself with friends, family, and professionals who can provide emotional and practical support. This may include joining a support group, seeking therapy, or reaching out to others who have been in similar situations.
  3. Educate yourself: Learn as much as you can about your legal rights, the divorce process, and strategies for dealing with manipulative behavior. Knowledge is power, and…



Mark Randall Havens

Join his journey of healing and self-discovery through his work as director of COPARENT and leader of the Dallas Maker Community.