NEUTRALIZING NARCISSISM

Guilt-Tripping: Understanding the Manipulative Tactic

How Narcissists use guilt to control and exploit others

Mark Randall Havens
3 min readJan 17, 2023

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Guilt-tripping is a common tactic used by narcissists to manipulate and control others. In this article, we will explore the different ways narcissists use guilt, the consequences of falling victim to this tactic, and how to protect yourself. Photo by Francisco Gonzalez on Unsplash.

Have you ever felt guilty for something you knew you didn’t do? Or felt compelled to do something you didn’t want to do because someone made you feel guilty? If so, you may have fallen victim to the manipulative tactic of guilt-tripping. Guilt-tripping is a common tactic used by narcissists to control and exploit others, and it can have serious consequences. In this article, we will explore the different ways narcissists use guilt, the consequences of falling victim to this tactic, and how to protect yourself.

Guilt-tripping is a form of emotional manipulation that involves inducing feelings of guilt in someone in order to control or influence their behavior. Narcissists may use guilt-tripping as a way to control their victims and make them feel responsible for the narcissist’s own problems or shortcomings.

The guilt-tripper may use a variety of tactics to make the victim feel guilty, such as playing the victim themselves, blaming and shaming, or manipulating the victim’s emotions. For example, a narcissist may make the victim feel guilty for not spending enough time with them, or for not doing enough to help them. They may also use guilt-tripping as a way to manipulate the victim into doing something they want, such as giving them money or covering up their mistakes.

Guilt-tripping can be a very effective form of manipulation, as it preys on the victim’s sense of responsibility and empathy. It can also be very damaging, as it can lead to feelings of self-doubt, low self-esteem, and even depression.

To protect yourself from guilt-tripping, it’s important to recognize the signs of this manipulation tactic. Some common signs include:

  • Feeling guilty for things you didn’t do or didn’t do wrong
  • Being made to feel responsible for the other person’s problems or feelings
  • Being made to feel guilty for not meeting the other person’s expectations or needs
  • Being made to feel guilty for setting boundaries or saying no

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Mark Randall Havens

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